Marriage in Love

     The last two days, I sat and looked at a computer screen, trying to think of an idea for a new blog post. Ha! Think, I can’t think, my brain tells me thinking hurts. I finally got it, I want to write about love and its common misconception with marriage. Society makes us feel like we must be married to be happy when some people are better off alone. Some people are better with themselves or need to be with themselves. There are usually three reasons why people get married. The first is religion. The second is family and the third is because they can’t be alone with themselves for more than an hour. I am being facetious, but you get my point, can’t be alone with themselves. So, let’s dive into it!

                Religion is a big thing around the world, here in the US it’s a huge thing in the southern states. I won’t go into too much about religion, but it seems to fuel a lot of people’s reactions and actions. Some people treat people a certain way because of it. Religion is controversial and even if I have faith and believe in God, the next person might not or be in another religion. I am not here to say which one is right or if any of them are right to begin with. I know in some cultures; marriage is something everyone does and if you don’t get married it is highly disgraceful. There are even cultures that have arranged marriages. An arranged marriage is where two people are forced to be married because of their families wishes. I think it may have to do with social status but didn’t research much about it. In my opinion, I think marriage and religion go hand in hand for obvious reasons, but I also think it should be ultimately up to the person if they want to be married or not. Marriage isn’t for everyone. That’s where family comes in, they typically help with the decisions to want to be married as well.

                Family can be everything to some people, but when it comes to a person you are spending the rest of your life with, I think family should stay out of it. In a lot of families, they expect the person to grow up, find someone and marry them. That’s it to the point. I’ll bring it back to religion, a lot of Catholic or Christian families believe it’s a sin to have sex before marriage.  Welp, I definitely am the biggest sinner. I know that it is against religion to do this but why wouldn’t you have sex before you’re married? Yes, sex isn’t everything, but you need a sexual connection with someone you are going to marry. That’s my opinion obviously but to those who did wait, no judgement here and I understand why you did. I would never judge someone for their decisions that’s not my job or point in my post. I am just stating an opinion and do not wish to offend anyone reading but realistically not even testing your sexual relationship with someone can lead to a resentful marriage. I know that some people are less sexual than others, but everyone needs sex, and you can’t pretend that you don’t. Shit some people get married just because of the sex, which is fucking stupid but hey we all can’t think logically with some good penis or vagina. The motivation from family can be hard to deal with sometimes. They have good intentions but can force you into something in certain religions make it difficult to end. Cough Catholics cough, sorry I can be a little forward in my opinions but its true. They make getting a divorce like the end of the world when there are people starving around the world. I think that’s a bigger problem in the world and a totally different topic. That leaves us with the last reason, the reality of being alone.

                I think I made this one for myself, because I’ve found that I am this way. I am not fully incapable of being alone, I just don’t want to be. Not when it is more fun having an adventure with someone else and not just yourself. There are some people who truly can’t be with themselves longer than a day. I am not that way. I definitely need my alone time and think everyone should have time like this. When you’re alone, you find time to see your needs and assess what it is you need from your partner or even a friend. In most cases, people who deal negatively with being alone, can’t stay single for more than a few weeks, shit days in some cases. I find in these people it steams from abandonment issues. Maybe a parent left and never came back, or their parent was there but not really there. Alcohol, drugs etc. In most cases with this the person has a sense of self sabotage and picks people just so they don’t have to be alone. To be honest, these are the types of people that would strive well with an arranged marriage but again my opinion. All these different theories but which one applies to you?

                In conclusion, did I just say in conclusion. Someone give me a fucking award, I am speaking properly, stating half assed facts to put on a political face. Please, there is nothing political about me. I may have left another reason out, but everyone has compromise whether it be in marriage or the person themselves. I want you to take a step back and look at why your married or why you’re getting married. Love is love. You can love anyone and anything, but do you really need a piece of paper to love someone? I don’t think so and feel society shouldn’t either. When you think about it, you only should be getting married because YOU want to. No one should be influencing that decision but you. Stay tuned for next week's post, "Love in a Modern World."